I think the biggest problem I have with the whole Samantha Brick affair is her notion that ‘women do not like attractive women.’ ‘It got me thinking about how the Sisterhood attack beautiful women,’ she said yesterday on This Morning.
I’ve shared my thoughts on whether the Sisterhood really exists before. But the idea that women don’t like Samantha Brick because she’s attractive is the part of her argument I find most offensive.
Of course, your views are usually based on your own experience; my experience is that I have some incredibly beautiful women friends. I mean, head-turning, men-with-tongues-hanging-out beautiful. I also have lots of female friends who are very attractive. What attracted me to all my friends is their personalities. I wouldn’t be friends with someone just because they were beautiful or attractive; if I felt they were arrogant or toxic, I wouldn’t be friends with them, it’s as simple as that.
But the idea that women are so silly, so flighty, so jealous and superficial that they can’t look beyond physical appearance and get to know a person does a deep disservice to women and simply plays into the hands of those anti-feminists and sexists (and of course the Daily Fail) who believe we’re all bitches underneath. And Samantha I think you’ll find that the reason many beautiful celebrities find themselves alone is because they are so self-obsessed they start to believe their own hype, which makes them the B word (that’s boring, not beautiful).
Women like other women who share their values, are good fun, who they can talk to and rely on in a crisis. That’s the beauty of female friendship.
Samantha Brick thinks she has it hard being an attractive woman but try being a hot dad.
It is embarrassing. While playing the tickle monster game with baby in the park I am asked by mothers, not all of them single, if they can be chased and tickled too.
I’m just catching up with this foolishness and i totally agree with your sentiments. My first thoughts when i read her original article ( after ‘so what?) were who are these women she ‘knows’ who don’t like her?’. All I’m saying is what my mum always told me ‘Beauty is s Beauty does’.
Good stuff as always missus.
Circulating such idea, that women hate good looking women, has harmed women’s image and affected their professionalism and chances of securing managerial jobs, since such notion reflects an unfair idea that women’s emotions or personal judgements obscures their ethics at work, which is untrue. No one cares about employing a good looking women and end up being criticized because she can’t handle her duties.
Yes. I totally agree. Friendship is about far more than appearances. You have summed it up beautifully. Thanks