One of the things I’ve noticed this weekend in among all the furore about blogging v blagging is a worrying number of comments talking about how ‘cliquey’ parent blogging is, and how hard it is to break into established blogging ranks.
I feel a bit sad about this, tbh, but it’s also something I can identify with, because when I first started blogging I had no idea groups like British Mummy Bloggers (as it was called then) existed; I was very much a one woman band.
When, about three months later, I finally discovered this ‘blogosphere’ I can remember wanting to be part of some of the groups I could see talking to each other on twitter.
You know how I did it? I read as many blogs as I could. I commented on as many blogs as I could. I tweeted with other bloggers on twitter, and spoke to them at the events I was gradually invited to. And slowly but surely I started to make blogging friends – in some cases very good friends.
And I also formed proper, long-lasting relationships with one particular group of bloggers. When one of us is upset, or angry, or hurting, she tells the others; when one of us is going through something exceptionally difficult, we’re there for her. And we also make each other laugh until the tears pour down our faces. I will always be grateful to blogging for introducing me to these women.
If you’re open and friendly to the more ‘established’ bloggers most of them will respond; but at the end of the day, we’re all busy, with our own lives and friends. It takes time to form friendships online, just as it does in real life. That doesn’t mean you should give up: but you may have to persevere.