Let me start by saying I don’t agree with condemning other women for the choices they make, whether it’s to do with how we feed, educate or look after our children – as long as they’re happy and nurtured, that’s all that matters.
I’m also a firm believer that you’re as young as you feel, and age is definitely not a barrier to achievement or being fabulous.
But there are some things that I find difficult to understand – and that’s why any woman would want to become a mum to a baby in her 50s.
According to reports today Denise Welch is hoping to have fertility treatment so she can have a baby with her new partner. She is 54, and he is 39. They both have children from previous relationships.
Denise is bright and funny and she’s incredibly resilient. She doesn’t strike me as someone lacking in energy – but as all mums know, having a baby can be tough physically, particularly when you factor in sleep deprivation, no matter how old you are.
There is also, of course, the argument that if we were supposed to have babies at 54, it would happen naturally. But all of the ‘oldest mothers’ we know about – including Elizabeth Adeney, who had a baby at the age of 66 – have had IVF. And the risk of miscarriage shoots up the older you are.
Of course I can understand that if you’re in a relationship with someone you want to give them a child. And I can also understand that longing to nurture a baby. But just because we want something, it doesn’t mean it’s right. There are lots of children crying out to be adopted, or fostered. And at some point, surely, common sense has to prevail.
*What do you think – is having a baby at the age of 54 a good idea? I’d love to know your thoughts.