On Monday I attended a debate with several high profile women, all mums. We were discussing the notion of sisterhood, and one of the women said that she felt many women are not supportive of each other.
I have to agree. Particularly in my industry – media – where I’ve witnessed women trample all over each other to try to get up to that glass ceiling.
In my experience, women are supportive of each other up to a point. They’re supportive of their friends, of course, people they feel an affinity with. They’re supportive of a cause – breast cancer awareness, for example, or the White Ribbon alliance. But women are not, in my experience, on the whole supportive of each other just because they’re women.
It’s a bit like when you go to a mother and toddler group, or stand at the school gate. Just because you’re all mothers, doesn’t mean you have anything in common. Your values, your interests, are unlikely to be the same, although you may force yourself to be friendly for the sake of your children (and probably should, in fact).
Similarly, I have lots of friends in the parent blogosphere, but equally, as in real life, there are people who I’m not interested in, or don’t get on with, or in some cases, would cross the street to avoid (yes, of course the feeling is mutual).
Recently lovely blogger Lisa Pearson, aka The Mummy Whisperer, launched a campaign, Mums Stand Together. I applaud anyone launching a campaign and trying to make changes they feel are important.
But the point about the parent blogosphere, I think, is that it reflects real life, and just like real life, we’re all different. Trying to make us conform is (to use one of my favourite expressions), like herding cats. There are so many different factions – notice I didn’t say cliques – and it’s unlikely you’ll ever get everyone singing from the same hymn sheet; and if only one organisation supports you, then isn’t that just preaching to the (mostly) converted?
OK, maybe I’m being cynical. But I’m not the only one who knows where the bodies are buried, am I?